Don’t you know that the kids aren’t all, kids aren’t alright – Fall Out Boy, The Kids Aren’t Alright
Last week, after a couple of sleepless nights following the news of 13-year-old Danny Fitzpatrick’s suicide, I tweeted a link to a Google form with the following question: “How Do Your Bullied Kids Feel About Going Back To School?”
More than 100 responses were submitted by both parents and students, and frankly I was not surprised by their stories.
What is clear is that whatever is being done to remediate the problem of bullying in our schools, isn’t working. I’m not a sociologist or a psychologist, but I am a mother of children who were effectively round pegs trying to fit into square holes and endured year after year of misery from their peers because of it.
To those of you who took the time to write to me: I see you, and I hear you, and I want to tell you that I hope it gets better, wherever you happen to be in the world.
Its nerve wracking but normal at the same time. Its nerve wracking of having to think about what they will do to humiliate you and break you down, but it becomes normal since it usually happens on a constant basis. It makes you wish that the holidays would extend further so you can get even more prepared for the unexpected. – Anon.
I am very nervous about going back to school. I was bullied until I was moved away from the guy in all subjects however, my tutor who actually put the effort in to get the bullying sorted has left my school so I am now incredibly scared as I feel that it will continue now he has a teacher who is unaware of the situation.- Ella
I feel confident, because I know that I’ll be successful this year, bullies or not. I can stick up for myself now. – Anon.
I’m personally a bullied kid and i hate having to go back to school, it’s even worse with having anxiety. I always feel as if people are watching and judging me or that someone knows a secret about me that i don’t even know about myself. – Lydia
please kill me – Anon.
I don’t want to. I’m scared – Anon.
My child is feeling very unwelcome at her school because of bullies, and she is actually switching schools because of how much she is bullied. She doesn’t want to go back to school because the bullying is so bad and she has been beaten up before on several occasions, plus the verbal abuse is constant. – Rebecca
My child, despite being bullied, (freak, bookworm, you know the names) is actually really excited, surprisingly enough. This may be partly due to the fact she’s moving into middle school and doesn’t have to be with the same crowd, but she’s practically begging me to go back, claiming she’s been too bored the past couple of months. I’m still scared of it happening again, but I’m glad to see that she’s so excited. She’s a tough kid. I’m extremely proud of her. – Alannah
I feel scared, I do want to go back to school, but I just want to stop being afraid and abused. – Maggie
Im so scared and worry. Im hoping and praying that we get accepted into online school soon – Jay
I feel nervous. I feel like I am never going to feel safe. I dont want to get attacked again. I dont want to have to deal with people who cannot see me for who I am. A guy. My bullies like to use the fact that I am trans against me. The torment me and the school does nothing. I have tried to commit suicide because of how bad it has gotten. Yet the school do not seem to care. They tell me that they have zero tolerance for bullies but yet they never seem to do anything to help me. I go to a special school where these kids hide behind their disorders. They never get in trouble for anything they do and yet i am constantly getting in trouble. It makes me soo frustrated as i fought hard to get into this school and yet a couple of people can make me scared to come in. They make me soo angry. Their insults are horrible and overused but they still get to me. – Sam
As a grade 12 returning this year for my last high school experiance i do not feel so great about going back.. i have been bullied since junior kindergarden because my knees hyper extend because my tooth grew in sideways because of the clothing i wore.. So no i do not feel kindly about returning even thou it is my last year of high school. my question is why judge someone and make them feel worse about them selves why not pay a compliment once in a while and make people smile and not worry about what people are gonna think of them when they walk in to school and see all these kids dressed with name brand clothing and i phones. not all families have money. EQUALITY – Anon.